Spiritual Tapping: Enneagram Type Four

Stillness: Mysterious Introspections

This sequence is for Enneagram Type Fours who want to do deeper work on overcoming their personality issues. Please tap daily for about 7 days, either morning or evening, making sure that in each day, you find some quiet time for yourself to do this. Leave it alone for 7 days, then look at these statements again. You may have some new insights or memories relevant to the development of your Enneagram Type. You can tap on these or ask me if you need help.

If you are new to the Enneagram, EFT and tapping, please first refer to these sections:

EFT Basics

Tapping for Enneagram Types


1. Please start the tapping with the point under your left shoulder (Reset Button), do 3 rounds of the following statements.:
“I have a basic fear of having no personal significance, of having no identity, of not being seen for myself.
I have a basic desire to find my true self and my personal significance, my own meaning of life, to create an identity out of my own inner experience.`
I am so afraid of loosing touch with my inner states, my sense of self.

I need to express myself in something beautiful, to withdraw to protect my feelings, to take care of my emotional needs before attending to anything else.
But in my heart of hearts, I know my essential nature, I have intimacy with the truth of who I am, in the depth of my being. Where there is beauty, there is intimacy, and I find beauty in intimacy with reality.
All my emotional upheaval is just my ego experiencing itself in my personality. BUT I am more than my ego, I am more than my personality, I am more than my emotions, I am more than my thoughts. I am life beyond boundaries. I deeply and completely love and accept myself, I forgive myself, and anyone else who contributed to this situation.”

2. Now just do normal tapping, also 3 rounds:

These are the statements that reflect the emotions, and you can change or add as you feel. Just don’t do too many at one time or you might feel overwhelmed:

“I feel more inherently flawed than others.I feel ashamed, not good enough, I envy others who are not missing something, who have it easy. I feel secret longing and loathing and it’s hard.
I feel the fear of death, I have a death wish, I am ashamed of myself.
I feel defeated, conquered, beaten by life. I am carried away by every negative emotion, I have no control over how I feel.
I feel disconnected / deeply alienated from my family, my friends, my surrounding, I feel all alone in the world.
I feel defined by the tragedies in my life. If I had different parents, may be I would have been ok.
When I feel bad, sometimes I make others feel like nobodies, as if they have no significance.

I am tired of feeling this way. I am struggling with a cocktail of emotions that is not really helping me. I am reacting all the time with attachment and aversion, I’m tired of all this. I have no control. The problem is NOT what is happening to me, it’s what I’m THINKING about what’s happening to me, and what I am FEELING about what is happening to me.”

“I now choose to focus on the solution rather than the problem, and to change from being ASHAMED and ENVIOUS, to experience my essential quality: that deep wisdom and the cheerful EQUANIMITY within. What would I be without that thought that I was alone, insignificant, abandoned? What if I was free to feel good about who I am and where I am now?

I now choose to know that working on myself, and ensuring that I am the best that I can be means that I can be FULLY here. I’ve been running on an empty tank for a long time. Now it’s time to put petrol in the car, so that I can be FULLY PRESENT to my life, available for my family. I appreciate myself for getting the help I need, and doing the work so that I can be at the highest expression of who I am.”

3. Now do 3 rounds of this affirmations to get in touch with your true nature:

“I now choose to release the conviction that I am in a position to judge anything or anyone objectively, including myself.
I choose to be in touch with:
…. my intimate connection with reality
…. my self-renewing creativity, the ability to transform all my life’s experiences to beauty
…. my talent to make the personal universal
I choose to be in touch with DEPTH and MEANING (outside and inside of myself),
I choose to appreciate myself for being in touch with the depth and mystery of life. I respect myself for the journey that I am going through, and know that I am never separate from the ORIGINAL SOURCE of life
I choose to know that I am intuitive and self-aware, unique and authentic, passionate and artistic.
I choose to experience the STILLNESS, BEAUTY and EQUANIMITY within.”

Adapted from the work of Don Riso and Russ Hudson of the Enneagram Institute

Tapping for Enneagram Type Four

Enneagram Type Four

Even though I have all these issues below, I now understand that it is part of who I am, I deeply and completely love and accept myself, I forgive myself and I forgive anyone else who contributed to these issues. Sometimes it’s hard to be me. Sometimes I have difficulties like

  • experiencing dark moods of emptiness and despair, but that’s ok
  • feelings of self-hatred and shame; believing I don’t deserve to be loved, but that’s ok
  • feeling guilty when I disappoint people, but that’s ok
  • feeling hurt or attacked when someone misundertands me, but that’s ok
  • expecting too much from myself and life, but that’s ok
  • fearing being abandoned, but that’s ok
  • obsessing over resentments, but that’s ok
  • longing for what I don’t have, but that’s ok

Now that I understand myself a little more, and know that I am more than my fluctuating moods and emotions, I can also choose to transcend and release those energies which are not in my best interest to retain. I now choose to release……

  • turning my anger and aggressions against myself.
  • all self-hatred and self-contempt.
  • all feelings of hopelessness and despair.
  • all self-sabotaging thoughts and actions.
  • feeling that I am inadequate and defective.
  • the fear that I am unimportant and undesirable.
  • feeling shameful and misunderstood by others.
  • being distraught, fatigued, and inhibited.
  • feeling that people always let me down.
  • all unrealistic expectations of myself and others.
  • all claims of needing to be treated differently.
  • all self-indulgence in my emotions and behavior.
  • all self-doubt and emotional vulnerability.
  • wanting to protect myself by withdrawing from others.
  • all wasteful fantasies and romantic longings.
  • dwelling on the past to prolong my feelings.

I now choose to appreciate myself for:

  • my ability to find meaning in life and to experience feeling at a deep level
  • my ability to establish warm connections with people
  • admiring what is noble, truthful, and beautiful in life
  • my creativity, intuition, and sense of humor
  • being unique and being seen as unique by others
  • having aesthetic sensibilities
  • being able to easily pick up the feelings of people around me

I now choose to affirm…

  • that I am not defined by my feelings.
  • that only the feelings I act on express who I am.
  • that I open myself up to people and the world.
  • that I use all of my experiences to grow.
  • the goodness of my life, my friends, and myself.
  • that I love myself and treat myself gently.
  • that I am free of the damage of my past.
  • that I am transforming my life into something higher.
  • that I am bringing something good and beautiful into the world.

Adapted from:
Renee Baron & Elizabeth Wagele, The Enneagram Made Easy
Don Richard Riso, Enneagram Transformations