This sequence is for Enneagram Type Fours who want to do deeper work on overcoming their personality issues. Please tap daily for about 7 days, either morning or evening, making sure that in each day, you find some quiet time for yourself to do this. Leave it alone for 7 days, then look at these statements again. You may have some new insights or memories relevant to the development of your Enneagram Type. You can tap on these or ask me if you need help.
If you are new to the Enneagram, EFT and tapping, please first refer to these sections:
1. Please start the tapping with the point under your left shoulder (Reset Button), do 3 rounds of the following statements.:
“I have a basic fear of having no personal significance, of having no identity, of not being seen for myself.
I have a basic desire to find my true self and my personal significance, my own meaning of life, to create an identity out of my own inner experience.`
I am so afraid of loosing touch with my inner states, my sense of self.
I need to express myself in something beautiful, to withdraw to protect my feelings, to take care of my emotional needs before attending to anything else.
But in my heart of hearts, I know my essential nature, I have intimacy with the truth of who I am, in the depth of my being. Where there is beauty, there is intimacy, and I find beauty in intimacy with reality.
All my emotional upheaval is just my ego experiencing itself in my personality. BUT I am more than my ego, I am more than my personality, I am more than my emotions, I am more than my thoughts. I am life beyond boundaries. I deeply and completely love and accept myself, I forgive myself, and anyone else who contributed to this situation.”
2. Now just do normal tapping, also 3 rounds:
These are the statements that reflect the emotions, and you can change or add as you feel. Just don’t do too many at one time or you might feel overwhelmed:
“I feel more inherently flawed than others.I feel ashamed, not good enough, I envy others who are not missing something, who have it easy. I feel secret longing and loathing and it’s hard.
I feel the fear of death, I have a death wish, I am ashamed of myself.
I feel defeated, conquered, beaten by life. I am carried away by every negative emotion, I have no control over how I feel.
I feel disconnected / deeply alienated from my family, my friends, my surrounding, I feel all alone in the world.
I feel defined by the tragedies in my life. If I had different parents, may be I would have been ok.
When I feel bad, sometimes I make others feel like nobodies, as if they have no significance.
I am tired of feeling this way. I am struggling with a cocktail of emotions that is not really helping me. I am reacting all the time with attachment and aversion, I’m tired of all this. I have no control. The problem is NOT what is happening to me, it’s what I’m THINKING about what’s happening to me, and what I am FEELING about what is happening to me.”
“I now choose to focus on the solution rather than the problem, and to change from being ASHAMED and ENVIOUS, to experience my essential quality: that deep wisdom and the cheerful EQUANIMITY within. What would I be without that thought that I was alone, insignificant, abandoned? What if I was free to feel good about who I am and where I am now?
I now choose to know that working on myself, and ensuring that I am the best that I can be means that I can be FULLY here. I’ve been running on an empty tank for a long time. Now it’s time to put petrol in the car, so that I can be FULLY PRESENT to my life, available for my family. I appreciate myself for getting the help I need, and doing the work so that I can be at the highest expression of who I am.”
3. Now do 3 rounds of this affirmations to get in touch with your true nature:
“I now choose to release the conviction that I am in a position to judge anything or anyone objectively, including myself.
I choose to be in touch with:
…. my intimate connection with reality
…. my self-renewing creativity, the ability to transform all my life’s experiences to beauty
…. my talent to make the personal universal
I choose to be in touch with DEPTH and MEANING (outside and inside of myself),
I choose to appreciate myself for being in touch with the depth and mystery of life. I respect myself for the journey that I am going through, and know that I am never separate from the ORIGINAL SOURCE of life
I choose to know that I am intuitive and self-aware, unique and authentic, passionate and artistic.
I choose to experience the STILLNESS, BEAUTY and EQUANIMITY within.”
Adapted from the work of Don Riso and Russ Hudson of the Enneagram Institute