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Spiritual Tapping: Enneagram Type Six

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Courage Within

This sequence is for Enneagram Type Sixes who want to do deeper work in integrating their personality. Please tap daily for about 7 days, either morning or evening, making sure that in each day, you find some quiet time for yourself to do this. Leave it alone for 7 days, then look at these statements again. You may have some new insights or memories relevant to the development of your Enneagram Type. You can tap on these or ask me if you need help.

If you are new to the Enneagram, EFT and tapping, please first refer to these sections:

EFT Basics

Tapping for Enneagram Types

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1. Please start the tapping with the point under your left shoulder (Reset Button), do 3 rounds of the following statements.:
“I have a basic fear of  being without support and guidance, of being lost and without orientation, the world feels like quick-sand, I have no inner guidance.
I have a basic desire to find a trustworthy orientation so that I can be secure and supported, usually I look for this outside of myself. I am so afraid of  loosing my security, my feeling of belonging

I need to have security, to feel supported, to have the approval of others. I need to test the attitudes of others toward me, I need to defend my beliefs.

I’m only good or OK if I cover all the bases and do what is expected of me, the committee in my head says so… you are only good or OK if you cover all the bases and do what is expected of you…. But I still feel anxious and fearful no matter how hard I work…. I’m lost, alone , vulnerable, unprotected and unsafe.
But in my heart of hearts, I know my essential nature, I have  true INNER GUIDANCE and AWAKENESS within.
All my emotional upheaval is just my ego experiencing itself in my personality. BUT I am more than my ego, I am more than my personality, I am more than my emotions, I am more than my thoughts, I am more than my anxiety . I am life beyond boundaries. I deeply and completely love and accept myself, I forgive myself, and anyone else who contributed to this situation.”

2. Now just do normal tapping, also 3 rounds:

These are the statements that reflect the emotions, and you can change or add as you feel. Just don’t do too many at one time or you might feel overwhelmed:

“I feel over-extended but guilty and ashamed all the time, I’m not good enough no matter what I do.

I have no power, no voice, and no rights, and other people are victimising me. But if I speak up then I will loose what support I have.

I have so much anxiety, because people and the world gang up on me, I’m suspicious of everyone. People are against me.

I feel defeated, conquered, beaten by life. I feel desperate, helpless and panic stricken. I am carried away by every negative emotion, I have no control over how I feel.

I feel abandoned and alone in the world. My head is spinning with anxious thoughts, and I can’t stop.

I am tired of feeling this way. I am struggling with a cocktail of emotions that is not really helping me. I am reacting all the time with attachment and aversion, I’m tired of all this. I have no control. The problem is NOT what is happening to me, it’s what I’m THINKING about what’s happening to me, and what I am FEELING about what is happening to me.”

“I now choose to focus on the solution rather than the problem, and to change from being FEARFUL and ANXIOUS, to experience my essential quality: that EFFORTLESS STRENGTH and FAITH and the  INNER GUIDANCE and COURAGE within. What would I be without that thought that I was without guidance, unsupported, abandoned? What if I was free to feel good about who I am and where I am now? What if I CAN TRUST my own INTERNAL RADAR about what to do?

I now choose to know that working on myself, and ensuring that I am the best that I can be means that I can be FULLY here. I’ve been running on adrenaline for a long time, driven by anxiety, self-punishment and self-criticism, and feeling like a victim. It’s now time to recess that committee in my head, so that I can be FULLY PRESENT to my life, available for my family. I appreciate myself for getting the help I need, and doing the work so that I can be at the highest expression of who I am.”

3. Now do 3 rounds of this affirmations to get in touch with your true nature:

“I now choose to release the conviction that I must rely on someone or something outside of myself for security.
I choose to be in touch with

my foresight and steadfastness,
my trustworthiness,
my love, loyalty and devotion to my loved ones.
my ability to bond effortlessly and create synergies with people
my ability to think independently and make the right decisions for myself

I choose to know that I am reliable, alert and independent.

I choose to be in touch with MY INNER SOVEREIGNTY and MY MINDFULNESS.
I choose to start to experience myself as being COURAGEOUS, WAKEFUL and GROUNDED.  I respect myself for the journey that I am going through, and know that I am never separate from my INNER STRENGTH and  INNER GUIDANCE.

I choose to experience the CALM, COURAGE and INNER AUTHORITY within.”

Adapted from the work of Don Riso and Russ Hudson of the Enneagram Institute

Enneagram: Moving up the Levels of Development

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Up Stairs and Over Shadows

An educator said to me, “oh, we don’t do personality typing, we don’t  put people in boxes because we treat people as complete individuals….”  He’s got a point. If we do typing / profiling and just stop there, that is putting people in boxes. It’s can be pointless, unfair, unwise and even limiting. And just like any other tool, the Enneagram can be useful or not, depending on how we use it. How we use it depends on what we understand it is.

For me it is a framework and a map for getting to the highest expression of who we are, the best version of ourselves. It isn’t the simplest of frameworks to understand, and it doesn’t explain everything that a human being is or does. But it allows us to see where we are, and where we can be, if we want. This is where the Levels of Development, pioneered by Don Riso and Russ Hudson come in so handy. No one Type is better or worse than another Type. There healthy, average and unhealthy levels within each personality type. And on any given day, our sense of self fluctuate depending on what kind of day we are having and how deeply entrenched we are in our personality, how far we have been estranged from our true essence.  No one is a pure Type, nor do we not use resources of other Types or exhibit traits, attitudes and behaviour of other Types. As complete humans, we have all nine Types. It’s just that we “live” in a particular Type based on our Basic Fear, Basic Desire and Parental Orientation.

It doesn’t matter what challenges we are having, or what goals we have set. We can be in the middle of a life transition, working on a phobia, overcoming depression, lying in a deep trough on the journey to the dark side….. if we know our personality well, and we know the mechanism and the dynamics of the levels of development, we will know where we are along that continuum. And if we have the right tools we will be able to get from a less healthy level of development to a more healthy level. It doesn’t happen in a weekend, but for those who are on the path of self-development, self-awareness and self-definition, I don’t know a more complete or more useful framework than the Enneagram and specifically of the dynamism of the levels of development and other flowing aspects of the framework. And I don’t know a better book than “The Wisdom of the Enneagram” by Riso and Hudson.

Therefore the Enneagram is about finding out which box we are already in, so that we can find our way out of the box of our ego identification, to breathe the free air of our true essence. The tools? EFT, Integration, NLP….. come see me.