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Tapping for Enneagram Type One

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Enneagram Type One

Even though I have these issues, I now understand that it is part of who I am, I deeply and completely love and accept myself, I forgive myself and I forgive anyone else who contributed to these issues. I recognise that sometimes it is hard to be a One, I have some issues like:

  • being disappointed with myself or others when my expectations are not met, but that’s ok
  • feeling burdened by too much responsibility, but that’s ok
  • thinking that what I do is never good enough, but that’s ok
  • not being appreciated for what I do for people, but that’s ok
  • being upset because others aren’t trying as hard as I am, but that’s ok
  • obsessing about what I did or what I should do, but that’s ok
  • being tense, anxious, and taking things too seriously, but that’s ok

I deeply and completely love and accept myself anyway, I forgive myself and anyone else who contributed
to this situation.

I now choose to release…

  • holding myself and others to impossible standards.
  • my fear of losing control and becoming irrational.
  • my fear of being condemned for being wrong.
  • refusing to see my own contradictions.
  • rationalizing my own behavior.
  • obsessing about things I cannot change.
  • all bitterness and disappointment with the world.
  • feeling that other people’s beliefs and values threaten mine.
  • believing that I am in a position to judge others.
  • driving myself and others to be perfect.
  • ignoring my own emotional and physical distress.
  • feeling angry, impatient, and easily annoyed.
  • fearing and disowning my body and my feelings.
  • allowing my desire for order and efficiency to control my life.
  • automatically focusing on what is wrong with things.
  • feeling that it is up to me to fix everything.

I now choose to appreciate myself for:

  • being self-disciplined and able to accomplish a great deal
  • working hard to make the world a better place
  • having high standards and ethics; not compromising myself
  • being reasonable, responsible, and dedicated in everything I do
  • being able to put facts together, coming to good understandings, and figuring out wise solutions
  • being the best I can be and bringing out the best in other people

I now choose to affirm…

  • that I can allow myself to relax and enjoy life.
  • that the best I can do is good enough.
  • that I am grateful that others have many things to teach me.
  • that I can make mistakes without condemning myself.
  • that my feelings are legitimate and that I have a right to feel them.
  • that I treat others with tenderness and respect.
  • that I am gentle and forgiving of myself.
  • that I am compassionate and forgiving of others.
  • that life is good and unfolding in miraculous ways.

Adapted from:
Renee Baron & Elizabeth Wagele, The Enneagram Made Easy
Don Richard Riso, Enneagram Transformations

Reframing Anger and Hate

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Hate, anger, ill-will, vindictiveness in all their guises are energies that eat us up and lower our vibrations. For the most part, these emotions do not serve us. But it’s pointless to tell some one, “don’t be angry, let it go”. The question is how. This is where tapping comes in. As usual score first for the intensity of your emotions, tap and reassess. Tap until emotions are 0 or near 0. Hate is hard to let go of, so expect that you’ll have lots of resistance. You’ll have to use the reframing technique. If you simply can’t get emotions down to 0, say it stops at 0.5, do the 9 gamut technique.

“I hate him. I wish him ill. I want to see him suffer, I want to see him dead… (state what you feel)…. I deeply and completely love and accept myself anyway, and I forgive myself.

Even though a part of me wants him out of my system, the rest of me does not want to let go. He deserves my hate, my anger, my ill-will. He deserves many things, but he sure as hell does not deserve forgiveness. (acknowledge your resistance)

But holding on to this energy is hurting only me. The negativity is being stored in my body-mind. It’s not hurting him or affecting him negatively in any way. In a way may be my negativity is helping him reach his goals of tormenting me. May be it’s time to consider a different strategy (suggest an alternative).

May be it is not about what he deserves or doesn’t deserve. May be it’s about me having freedom and release from this. While I am not ready to forgive him, I’m ready to have my freedom, sovereignty and power back. I want to be released from this situation (hell). I want and I deserve freedom from this.

Forgiveness here is not about condoning the past. It’s about choosing not to allow the past to dictate my future. It’s about my own future, and the future of my loved ones (reframing). I now choose to release all negative energies, all negative emotions I have around this situation, so that we can have the life we deserve and that we desire. To live happily and healthily in the world, without recourse to him is our best revenge. I choose to release him from my energy system. I choose freedom from this situation. I choose peace. I choose to be at ease and comfortable in my own skin.”