Spiritual Tapping: Enneagram Type Six

Courage Within

This sequence is for Enneagram Type Sixes who want to do deeper work in integrating their personality. Please tap daily for about 7 days, either morning or evening, making sure that in each day, you find some quiet time for yourself to do this. Leave it alone for 7 days, then look at these statements again. You may have some new insights or memories relevant to the development of your Enneagram Type. You can tap on these or ask me if you need help.

If you are new to the Enneagram, EFT and tapping, please first refer to these sections:

EFT Basics

Tapping for Enneagram Types


1. Please start the tapping with the point under your left shoulder (Reset Button), do 3 rounds of the following statements.:
“I have a basic fear of  being without support and guidance, of being lost and without orientation, the world feels like quick-sand, I have no inner guidance.
I have a basic desire to find a trustworthy orientation so that I can be secure and supported, usually I look for this outside of myself. I am so afraid of  loosing my security, my feeling of belonging

I need to have security, to feel supported, to have the approval of others. I need to test the attitudes of others toward me, I need to defend my beliefs.

I’m only good or OK if I cover all the bases and do what is expected of me, the committee in my head says so… you are only good or OK if you cover all the bases and do what is expected of you…. But I still feel anxious and fearful no matter how hard I work…. I’m lost, alone , vulnerable, unprotected and unsafe.
But in my heart of hearts, I know my essential nature, I have  true INNER GUIDANCE and AWAKENESS within.
All my emotional upheaval is just my ego experiencing itself in my personality. BUT I am more than my ego, I am more than my personality, I am more than my emotions, I am more than my thoughts, I am more than my anxiety . I am life beyond boundaries. I deeply and completely love and accept myself, I forgive myself, and anyone else who contributed to this situation.”

2. Now just do normal tapping, also 3 rounds:

These are the statements that reflect the emotions, and you can change or add as you feel. Just don’t do too many at one time or you might feel overwhelmed:

“I feel over-extended but guilty and ashamed all the time, I’m not good enough no matter what I do.

I have no power, no voice, and no rights, and other people are victimising me. But if I speak up then I will loose what support I have.

I have so much anxiety, because people and the world gang up on me, I’m suspicious of everyone. People are against me.

I feel defeated, conquered, beaten by life. I feel desperate, helpless and panic stricken. I am carried away by every negative emotion, I have no control over how I feel.

I feel abandoned and alone in the world. My head is spinning with anxious thoughts, and I can’t stop.

I am tired of feeling this way. I am struggling with a cocktail of emotions that is not really helping me. I am reacting all the time with attachment and aversion, I’m tired of all this. I have no control. The problem is NOT what is happening to me, it’s what I’m THINKING about what’s happening to me, and what I am FEELING about what is happening to me.”

“I now choose to focus on the solution rather than the problem, and to change from being FEARFUL and ANXIOUS, to experience my essential quality: that EFFORTLESS STRENGTH and FAITH and the  INNER GUIDANCE and COURAGE within. What would I be without that thought that I was without guidance, unsupported, abandoned? What if I was free to feel good about who I am and where I am now? What if I CAN TRUST my own INTERNAL RADAR about what to do?

I now choose to know that working on myself, and ensuring that I am the best that I can be means that I can be FULLY here. I’ve been running on adrenaline for a long time, driven by anxiety, self-punishment and self-criticism, and feeling like a victim. It’s now time to recess that committee in my head, so that I can be FULLY PRESENT to my life, available for my family. I appreciate myself for getting the help I need, and doing the work so that I can be at the highest expression of who I am.”

3. Now do 3 rounds of this affirmations to get in touch with your true nature:

“I now choose to release the conviction that I must rely on someone or something outside of myself for security.
I choose to be in touch with

my foresight and steadfastness,
my trustworthiness,
my love, loyalty and devotion to my loved ones.
my ability to bond effortlessly and create synergies with people
my ability to think independently and make the right decisions for myself

I choose to know that I am reliable, alert and independent.

I choose to be in touch with MY INNER SOVEREIGNTY and MY MINDFULNESS.
I choose to start to experience myself as being COURAGEOUS, WAKEFUL and GROUNDED.  I respect myself for the journey that I am going through, and know that I am never separate from my INNER STRENGTH and  INNER GUIDANCE.

I choose to experience the CALM, COURAGE and INNER AUTHORITY within.”

Adapted from the work of Don Riso and Russ Hudson of the Enneagram Institute

Tapping for Grief (Loss, Fear, Helplessness…)

More on dealing with the loss of a loved one. If you are new to EFT and tapping please check the section on EFT Basics for the basic tapping technique.

I feel so lost and alone, and I am beating myself up for my lack of control. I don’t know how to do “helpless”, I hate when I melt down in front of people at the drop of a hat, I hate that I don’t have any control over my tears, my emotions, it’s not ok for me to be not ok, I have things that need to be done, and people I need to take care of, but I deeply and completely accept myself anyway.

I am at a loss, so many things frazzle me, I feel scared, I can’t cope, I feel overwhelmed, I hate being like this, I don’t know how to do helpless. I feel bad about being sad around my friends. But I forgive myself, and anyone else for contributing to this situation. Even though I was forced to confront my mortality, and the fragility of human life, and I am really shaken, I now choose to find my center again.

Even though I am beating myself up, because it’s not ok to be not ok, that’s ok. I acknowledge that I suffered the biggest loss in my life. My whole world just turned upside down. It’s ok to be not ok. Even though I really want to get over this, and move on, a part of me doesn’t. A part of me thinks that holding on to my grief and suffering, I am holding on to him. A part of me is beating the other part up for wanting to be able to cope. I acknowledge that I may have some conflicted feelings about this. And I deeply and completely love and accept myself, my complex acknowledged and unacknowledged feelings, I forgive myself, and anyone else who may or may not have contributed to this situation.

Even though I still feel anxious, frightened, brokenhearted, bereaved, dread, off-balanced…. I deeply and completely love and accept myself, I forgive myself, and anyone else who contributed to this situation. I now choose to be calm and confident. I now choose to be still and peaceful. I now choose stability, strength,. I now choose to be grounded, centered. I now choose to nurture myself and honour my emotions, and allow myself this time to grief, to reminisce, and then to heal.