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EFT for Money Issues

July 17th, 2010

Bountiful Abundance

Money blocks come in a few guises: beliefs about me (and my parents and my family), beliefs about money, beliefs about people with money. Beliefs are usually about the right/wrong, good/bad, desirable/undesirable variety. Much of our ideas on self-worth, good and evil and identity could be tied to money, wealth and abundance. Sometimes there’s a kind of ‘humble pride’ as a defence mechanism against feeling bad about poverty. As always, substitute with words that resonate with you. You may also try using the second person voice (“you are not good enough”) instead of the first person voice (“I am not good enough”). This is often more effective when you had someone in your life who kept telling you you weren’t good enough.

It is useful to work on different word-themes around money, e.g., “wealth”, “abundance”, “lots and lots of money”, “profit”, “fees”, “salary”…. It is also useful to work on idioms, proverbs and common sayings. They have a way of programming us.

If you are new to EFT and tapping please check the section on EFT Basics for the basic tapping technique.

Blocks and Beliefs to release
Beliefs about myself, my family, my tribe:
I don’t deserve, I’m not worthy, I’m not good enough
There will never be enough
But we can’t afford that
I can never be better than my father, so I can never be rich
My family has always been poor and struggling
It is part of our heritage and identity to be poor
Wanting money makes me cheap
I want approval / validation / esteem, not money
I avoid money so that people / more people will like me
If I stay poor more people will like me
People will stop liking me / be jealous of me if I was successful
I’m too proud to make more money, wanting lots of money is beneath me

Beliefs about money / abundance wealth:
It is wrong to take money for helping / teaching / serving others
I above thinking/ worrying about money
It is wrong to make profits
Wealth is bad
Money is evil, money is the root of all evil
Profits are evil
Making profits is unethical
Corporations are evil
Money is not spiritual
Money is dirty
It’s crass to like money / worry about money
It’s crass to have / like / want lots of money
It’s not ok to have lots of money

Beliefs about people who have money:
Only crooks make lots and lots of money
Rich people are greedy / crass / dishonest / unethical
People who live in wealth and abundance are crooks
People who live in wealth and abundance live off the sweat of the poor
Spiritual people do not need / like / want money
Spiritual people do not need / like / want / lots of money
Only poor people need money
Only the uneducated need money / like money
Only crass people need / like / want money

Common idioms which becomes limiting beliefs
Save for a rainy day
A penny saved is a penny earned
Money don’t grow on trees
Tighten your belt
Cost an arm and a leg
Paid peanuts
Beggars can’t be choosers
Better safe than sorry

Affirmations to instil new beliefs
It’s good and necessary to have values, guidelines and ethics around money, but I don’t need to make them limiting blocks and beliefs. Changing my limiting beliefs about money, wealth and abundance is easy for me. Making money, easily, consistently and ethically is easy for me. Keeping the money I make is easy for me. Making money work for me ethically, consistently, easily is easy for me.

It’s good and necessary to have values, guidelines and ethics around lots and lots of money, but I don’t need to make them limiting blocks and beliefs. Changing my limiting beliefs about lots and lots of money, wealth and abundance is easy for me. Making lots and lots of money, easily, consistently and ethically is easy for me. Keeping lots and lots of money I make is easy for me. Making lots and lots of money work for me ethically, consistently, easily is easy for me. Living in wealth and abundance is easy and comfortable for me. Being successful, wealthy and living in abundance is my birthright.

I am now ready to allow myself to find a creative way to provide value to others and make lots and lots of money. I choose to surprise myself with great ideas towards creating wealth and abundance. I now choose to see money as a spiritual resource, not evil but good. I choose wealth now. I choose abundance now.

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True Forgiveness is Freedom

July 9th, 2010

Healing Tears

This was written for a client who needed help in achieving a true and lasting forgiveness (as oppose to temporary suppression with the distinct certainty of lashing out on reflex). This can be used generally for when you find it hard to forgive and let go, and you care enough to want to.

If you are new to EFT and tapping please check the section on EFT Basics for the basic tapping technique. Please also include the karate chop point or the psychological reversal point as part of your routine. You may also want to repeat each paragraph once or twice until you feel the intensity subside before moving on to the next one. Take it slow and let it work. Some of this is meant to be provocative, some of it is meant to inject humour in a tense situation. It may not work for everyone, please amend according to your own needs and nature. Good luck.

“I have so many conflicted thoughts about this issue. I don’t understand how he/she could do this to me…… Parts of me want to forgive and move on, other parts of me want to bash his brains in and gorge his eyes out, may be swipe him with a tiger’s claw (well, you get the picture, use your own words)….. I acknowledge the hurt, anger, betrayal, hate, helplessness, bereavement, insecurity, alienation (add emotions that you feel) inside, there isn’t anyone I could tell this to, I am all alone. I embrace all the parts of me who are hurting, fearful and angry. I acknowledge that you all have a right to be here, and that the emotions you feel are valid. I embrace you, and thank you for carrying all my pain.

Parts of me feel justified in holding on to my anger, because my anger protects me, because I am entitled to my anger, because he deserves my anger. My anger gives me a high, letting go of my anger may mean that I only feel grief and fear, I don’t want to let my anger go. I am may be even enjoying my anger. I enjoy holding this over his/her head. I like the idea that I can swipe at him/her and take revenge whenever he/she least expects me. I have a right to swipe, and I like that. I thank my anger for wanting to protect me.

I acknowledge that there are all these conflicted emotions and thoughts within me, and it’s ok to be not ok. But there are other parts of me who want to be ready to move on, and leave the past in the past, parts of me who want to experience real forgiveness, so that the past does not taint my future, so that I can live anger-free / fear-free / grief-free / pain-free from this event, may be sometime today, may be sometime tomorrow. I ask my subconscious mind to find a few other ways for me to express my positive intention behind my anger/fear/grief/pain, so that I can be free of my anger/fear/grief/pain, and so that I can forgive and have true freedom to live my life without reference to this event/person.

I was hurt, but i now choose to heal my wounded children within, I now choose to be at the highest expression of who I am. I choose to be calm, confident, free and strong. I choose to be happy. I choose to be still. I choose peace.

I choose to truely forgive and release, because I choose freedom from this. True forgiveness is freedom.”

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Tags: anger betrayal fear forgiveness grief hate helpless psychological reversal reframe wounded child

EFT for the Care Giver

June 29th, 2010

If you are new to EFT and tapping please check the section on EFT Basics for the basic tapping technique.

When a loved one is ill, and you fear for their life, tap for calm so that you can transcend your fear. This is phrased to be slightly “provocative” and may not be for everyone. It acknowledges that sometimes we fear more for our loss, than the pain that our loved one is going through. Please feel free to amend according to your emotional needs.

“Even though it’s much easier to succumb to my habitual vortex of fear and dread, and I’m in a frenzy about loosing my mother, and beating myself up over being a bad daughter, I now choose to see that this is really a waste of energy. Even though I’d much rather indulge in my fear and drama, about the pain of seeing my mother suffer, than being of some use in this situation, I now choose to embrace my emotions, I deeply and completely love and accept where I am, I forgive myself, and anyone for contributing to this situation.

I now choose to embrace all that I feel and fear, and transmute them into loving kindness, into courage, into strength, into intelligence, so that I can be fully present to support my mom through her life’s journey. I now choose to gather all my wisdom and my life force, to generate in my heart positive intentions to support my mom through her hard times.

Even though I am still worried, because I am still human and I am a daughter who loves and needs her mother, I deeply and completely love and accept myself, I forgive myself. I choose to do the best I can, with the tools that I have at this time. I now choose to invoke a state of trust, of space, of solidity, stability, firmness, of ease to support myself and my mom.

Breathing in: Calm
Breathing out: Peace

Breathing in: Space
Breathing out: Ease
Breathing in: Smile ( I mean you smile)
Breathing out: Release”