EFT tapping for Lovelessness

I feel like a victim, like I have no control of my life. It’s hard to feel that way, and I would like to change, but I feel deeply conflicted and helpless.

I deeply and completely love and accept myself, I forgive myself and anyone else who may have contributed to this.

I feel all these emotions: despair, unloved, unsupported, miserable, longing, unappreciated, defeated, longing to be loved, feeling like an outsider. It’s may be natural that I feel this way based on my upbringing and my past baggage, may be I even have a right to feel that way, but it doesn’t really help me. And I don’t want to keep referencing the past because I dont’ want my past to dictate my future.

May be I dont know what is love, love is a concept that I see on tv and in other people’s lives. I am longing for love, but I don’t believe in love, there is no love for me. I am a victim. I am angry with _____ for not loving me, I have a right to feel like that. I need to be loved the way I need to be loved.

But thinking this way only keeps me in suffering. May be I need to choose a different way of being so that I can be happy, and so that my children can have a happier childhood than me. While it is easier to be unhappy and blame other people for my pain, I now choose to be courageous.

I choose to take charge of my emotions and my life, even though I still feel like a victim, I am willing to try. I now choose SERENITY, PEACE OF MIND, WISDOM, AUTHENTICITY, AWAKENING, EQUANIMITY, COURAGE, JOY, GRATITUDE, WONDERMENT, STRENGTH, HARMONY, ABUNDANCE, CONTENTMENT. I now choose THE HIGHEST TRUTH, THE GREATEST LOVE and THE DEEPEST JOY.

May be I have chosen to experience lovelessness, may be now I can choose to experience the opposite of that. I choose to see that the universe supports me, the sun, the sky, the earth, the food that I eat …… the look in my son’s eyes when he laughs and cries…. I am not alone in the world.

I now choose to know that I am a divine child of the universe, I am made of love, I am made of nothing but love. The energy of love gives life and energizes everything. I now choose to be in touch with the DEEPEST TRUTH within me. Underneath the personality, the negative thoughts, the painful emotions is the ESSENCE of who I am. I am a river of consciousness flowing into the the sea of all existence. The experiences I have are the experiences that I choose to have. Because I have choices, I can now choose to have a different experience of life. I now choose SERENITY, PEACE OF MIND, WISDOM, AUTHENTICITY, AWAKENING, EQUANIMITY, COURAGE, JOY, GRATITUDE, WONDERMENT, STRENGTH, HARMONY, ABUNDANCE, CONTENTMENT. I now choose THE HIGHEST TRUTH, THE GREATEST LOVE and THE DEEPEST JOY. All is well in my world.

Tapping for Enneagram Type Six

Enneagram Type Six

Even though I have all these issues below, I now understand that it is part of who I am, I deeply and completely love and accept myself, I forgive myself and I forgive anyone else who contributed to these issues. Sometimes it’s hard to be me, I have issues like

  • the constant push and pull involved in trying to make up my mind, but that’s ok
  • procrastinating because of fear of failure; having little confidence in myself, but that’s ok
  • fearing being abandoned or taken advantage of, but that’s ok
  • exhausting myself by worrying and scanning for danger, but that’s ok
  • wishing I had a rule book at work so I could do everything right, but that’s ok
  • being too critical of myself when I haven’t lived up to my expectations, but that’s ok
  • Now that I understand more, that I am more than the sum of my emotions, thoughts and actions, I can also choose to transcend and release those energies which are not in my best interest to retain.

I now choose to release…

  • my fear of being abandoned and alone.
  • my self-defeating, self-punishing tendencies.
  • all feelings of dread about the future.
  • feeling persecuted, trapped, and desperate.
  • overreacting and exaggerating my problems.
  • taking out my fears and anxieties on others.
  • being suspicious of others and thinking the worst of them.
  • feeling inferior and incapable of functioning on my own.
  • feeling cowardly and unsure of myself.
  • acting “tough” to disguise my insecurities.
  • my fear and dislike of those who are different from me.
  • blaming others for my own problems and mistakes.
  • being evasive and defensive with those who need me.
  • my tendency to be negative and complaining.
  • my fear of taking responsibility for my mistakes.
  • looking to others to make me feel secure.

I choose to acknowledge and appreciate myself for my strong points, like

  • being committed and faithful to family and friends
  • being responsible and hardworking
  • being compassionate toward others
  • having intellect and wit
  • being a nonconformist
  • confronting danger bravely
  • being direct and assertive

I now choose to affirm…

  • that I am independent and capable.
  • that I can keep my own identity in groups and in relationships.
  • that I have faith in myself, my talents, and my future.
  • that I meet difficulties with calmness and confidence.
  • that I am secure and able to make the best of whatever comes my way.
  • the kinship I have with every human being.
  • that I am understanding and generous to all who need me.
  • that I act courageously in all circumstances.
  • that I find true authority within me.

Adapted from:
Renee Baron & Elizabeth Wagele, The Enneagram Made Easy
Don Richard Riso, Enneagram Transformations